It is a truism, but nonetheless true, that friendship isn’t a big thing – it’s a million little things. I have always been blessed with amazing friends, a treasure in my life that I had of late unfortunately started taking for granted. Over the last couple of months I had slowly, but ever so surely, slid into a state of perma-busy where I would oscilate from one excuse to the next always avoiding that I simply wasn’t being the friend that I should and want to be. I bought my own excuses everytime when I didn’t communicate and conveniently forgot that being a good friend so often lies in being faithful in the million little things. This revelation was a bitter and painful pill to swallow as I had to stop and say to myself: “Stop making excuses. Apologise. Be better.”
I should take a step back and explain how I got to this point. One of my amazing friends had the courage to, as Oscar Wilde puts it, stab me in the front with a much-needed wake-up call. I had been letting her down in so many little things over the last months and as I read her note I collapsed on the inside simply because she was so right and I was so heartbroken that I had allowed it to get to that point. She cared enough about our friendship to be honest and reminded me that as Henry Boye said, “The most important trip you may take in life is meeting people halfway,” even if the person you are going to meet is out of line.
Remember, we all stumble, every one of us. That’s why it’s a comfort to go hand in hand. ~ Emily Kimbrough